Every time she hung out with her single female friends, the same gripes surfaced. Enough already with the how-to-snag-a-guy advice streaming from anyone and everyone as soon as status single was announced, they said.Suddenly, Karin Anderson, Ph.D., assistant professor of psychology at Concordia University Chicago, found herself keeping track of what these single women were saying, replacing the strict academic research techniques she was used to with more informal polling.Here's the five snippets of well-meaning advice that topped Anderson's list.
As a single woman I will say that the only thing that irks me is when someone tells me I'm too picky. Am I supposed to settle for someone, just for the sake of NOT being single? Apparently that's how some view it. I guess it's a good thing I am quite happy being single!
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>>As a single woman I will say that the only thing that irks me is when someone tells me I'm too picky. Am I supposed to settle for someone, just for the sake of NOT being single? Apparently that's how some view it. I guess it's a good thing I am quite happy being single!<<
Like you, I've been told I'm too picky. I can't help it if I have standards! LOL
I am not fond of the oft told advice, "Someone will come along when you least expect it", I've just accepted that I am single, Harrison Ford has made no move to contact me yet.
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But, like fishing, you have to go where the fish are. Look in ponds where you are likely to find the kinds of fishes you like.>>
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I'm quite satisfied with my singledom (is that a word?) Honestly, the only time I miss having a man around is when something needs fixing around the house. But my boys are older now and learning how to do much of what needs to be done to maintain a house. 4 of my 5 kids (plus one grandson, almost 5) still live at home. Only one is under the age of 18, (he's 13). The other young adults are slowly but surely getting their footing and making their way in life. When they are all moved out, I may feel differently, but I don't really think so. As crass as this might sound, at this point in my life the only way I would get married is if he was old, rich, on his deathbed, and had me as sole beneficiary in his will.
Someone will come along when you least expect it", >>
Yea, I get that one too. Funny enough, most often those comments are from men. Other women usually understand why being single works for me.
so once you get married, your whole life is geared towards bringing home the pudding and just about nothing else.>>
I tell them that between singing and teaching, I'm too busy doing what I love to do, and it's taking up the majority of my time. This is the period of my life, where I can accomplish many goals.....before having a family, which would take up much of my energy. >>
You've always had a great attitude about marriage and your life Tiff. It would be nice if more young people could realize that. There are too many marriages that fail, and too many kids left out in the cold as it is.
But do you think a lot of young folks are getting married way too early, or getting married way too late? Is there, in your way of reasoning, a convinient time/moment for one to start thinking of getting hitched?
But do you think a lot of young folks are getting married way too early, or getting married way too late? Is there, in your way of reasoning, a convinient time/moment for one to start thinking of getting hitched?>>
I don't know if many get married too early in their lives, but I do think many get married too soon into the relationship. They don't get to know one another well enough to know if their goals or priorities are the same. I think that convenient time/moment is different for everyone.
So, we just let them know we're finally spending some 'girl-time' together. It works every time.>>
And you're being honest!
I remember when I was about your age (yes, back in the stone age) a girlfriend and I loved to go to the clubs. The music, the dancing, etc. But we just wanted to have some fun and wanted nothing to do with the young men who were there to pick up girls. We used to tell them we were gay and that seemed to send them running. Nowadays, it would probably attract them. lol
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