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5 Friends You Don't Need in Your Life

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#1 of 11

     Posted Oct-21 3:34 PM   
Juli
 
From  Juli  Posts 6231  Last Nov-19
To  All      [Msg # 20571.1 ]    
(The Frisky) -- Who was the first person you called the day your ex dumped you? Or that time you found a weird bump? Or the day you stumbled across that pair of barely worn Christian Louboutins at the Goodwill?

If you're like me, you called a girlfriend. While I love my man, and adore my cats to what some might consider a scary degree, the relationships I have with my girls is on an entirely different plane.

They're the funniest, smartest, weirdest (in a good way!) gaggle of broads I've ever met and I feel lucky every day to have them around.

It wasn't always this way. I've had to prune my posse (please note that I've also been kicked out of people's lives as well) and have discovered some types to avoid.

  • Drama Queen
  • Nurse Betty
  • Lady Hater
  • The Critic
  • The Leg Humper
CLICK HERE to see what CNN.com and The Frisky have to say about these types of friends.

Do you have any 'friends' who fall into these categories?  I have people that I work with, that I wouldn't call 'friends' who would turn on you on a dime.  I would put the gossiper on this list as well. 

How do you handle people like this?  Do you keep them at arm's length?  Or do you believe that it is good to keep your friends close, and your enemies closer?

Juli

 

"Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see."

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     Posted Oct-22 12:03 PM   
Srfrgrl
 
From  Srfrgrl  Posts 13909  Last Nov-24
To  Juli      [Msg # 20571.2 Message 20571.2 replying to 20571.1 20571.1 ]    

I'm so happy I don't have any of those kind of friends anymore!  When I was a teen and in my early 20's, I had the *leg humper* for a friend.  She was my supposed best friend since we were 11.  But every time I said I liked a guy, she would go out of her way to get them.  It wasn't like she stole my boyfriend, since these guys weren't mine to begin with.  I finally just wrote her off and moved on.

As to keeping enemies close, there's people at work that I don't really like, but I'm friendly to them.  Kill 'em with kindness, I guess.

 

Maureen

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     Posted Oct-24 9:43 AM   
Tracey[Forum Asst Mgr]
 
From  Tracey[Forum Asst Mgr]  Posts 734  Last Nov-24
To  Juli      [Msg # 20571.3 Message 20571.3 replying to 20571.1 20571.1 ]    
I don't even know where to start!   There was the friend who told me that if I lost weight, I could have any man I wanted.  Funny....her husband didn't seem to mind making passes at me (and no, I didn't bite).  I would never have told her that because she would never have believed me or blamed me and accused me of making a pass at him.  She is no longer in my life!  She didn't get that I liked who I was and was a very secure person.  She spent all her time wanting to be like her sisters, who had huge houses and husbands with huge salaries to go with it.

Then we had another friend who had to be the center of attention, and all men wanted her.  She didn't care if you were interested in the man, she was going to have him for herself.   If it walked and was male, she went after him.  She didn't always succeed either.  She was after a friend of mine, and he wouldn't go near her!  Why?  She had slept around and that did not appeal to him at all.  Then she became the "why does all the bad stuff happen to me" friend.  She's gone from my life now too!

It is not often I banish anyone from my life.  You really have to push me.  I don't hold grudges, and since these two people are no longer a part of my life, I can honestly say I don't miss them.

TRACEY

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     Posted Oct-26 10:06 AM   
katestownr6
 
From  katestownr6  Posts 144  Last Nov-24
To  Juli      [Msg # 20571.4 Message 20571.4 replying to 20571.1 20571.1 ]    

Do you keep them at arm's length

Yes arms length. I don't have time for the drama queens or the attention getters anymore. I used to have a friend that seemed to have created some sort of competition with me and her other friends in her mind.. We started to notice a pattern with her. First of all ,,she always chose friends much older than her. Whenever a attractive younger woman tried to make friends with her she,d find some reason to run her off. Secondly whenever any of our single friends would bring a date to a social event like a party she would get up and dance to the music by herself and do it close by  the woman;s new man. She would keep checking to see if he was watching her. We think she was trying to say see how young and pretty I am,,, why are you with her? Sometimes she would bring up how big her breasts were and how hard it was to find the right bra or talk about age and how the rest of us must be so wise because she was so much younger than everyone else. It finally dawned on everyone why she wanted to hang around us and we were actually just being used to help ease her own insecurity.I actually felt a bit sorry for her because something must have happened in her life to make her want to act this way but truthfully life is too short to have this nonsense.

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     Posted Oct-26 4:09 PM   
Juli
 
From  Juli  Posts 6231  Last Nov-19
To  Srfrgrl      [Msg # 20571.5 Message 20571.5 replying to 20571.2 20571.2 ]    
<<But every time I said I liked a guy, she would go out of her way to get them.>>

I do not understand people like this.  Friendship is way more important.  Especially when you are that age, and aren't married. 

Loyalty is everything to me.  I am loyal to the core, and don't understand those that aren't.  Friendship is something that should be treasured. 

Juli

 

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     Posted Oct-26 4:12 PM   
Juli
 
From  Juli  Posts 6231  Last Nov-19
To  Tracey[Forum Asst Mgr]      [Msg # 20571.6 Message 20571.6 replying to 20571.3 20571.3 ]    
<<There was the friend who told me that if I lost weight, I could have any man I wanted.  Funny....her husband didn't seem to mind making passes at me (and no, I didn't bite)>>

My first 'love' told me if I lost weight, that he would marry me in a second.  He still didn't have a problem 'getting' with me.  And like you, some of his friends wanted to as well. ( No comment on the biting-I was young, and trying to get even with him). 

<<Then she became the "why does all the bad stuff happen to me" friend. >>

There was a woman that I worked with like this.  A new story everyday.  Sometimes, she couldn't keep all of the lies straight. 

Many people like this, just want the attention.  I think that all of the people that fall into these categories crave attention. 

Juli

 

"Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see."

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     Posted Oct-26 4:14 PM   
Juli
 
From  Juli  Posts 6231  Last Nov-19
To  katestownr6      [Msg # 20571.7 Message 20571.7 replying to 20571.4 20571.4 ]    
Sounds like this woman was a real treat!!  A real pleasure to be around.  I would feel sorry for people like this, but I think that is actually what they want.

Juli

 

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     Posted Oct-26 4:49 PM   
katestownr6
 
From  katestownr6  Posts 144  Last Nov-24
To  Juli      [Msg # 20571.8 Message 20571.8 replying to 20571.7 20571.7 ]    

Sounds like this woman was a real treat!!  A real pleasure to be around.  I would feel sorry for people like this, but I think that is actually what they want.

Probably so. I think attention in any form would be welcome truthfully.

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     Posted Oct-26 4:58 PM   
Srfrgrl
 
From  Srfrgrl  Posts 13909  Last Nov-24
To  Juli      [Msg # 20571.9 Message 20571.9 replying to 20571.5 20571.5 ]    
I agree, Juli.  I'm fiercely loyal also.  I wouldn't even date the ex-boyfriend of a friend.  That's one of those unwritten rules.  The Girl Code (as opposed to the Bro Code).

 

Maureen

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     Posted Oct-26 5:11 PM   
Juli
 
From  Juli  Posts 6231  Last Nov-19
To  Srfrgrl      [Msg # 20571.10 Message 20571.10 replying to 20571.9 20571.9 ]    
<I wouldn't even date the ex-boyfriend of a friend.  That's one of those unwritten rules.  The Girl Code (as opposed to the Bro Code).>

Chicks Stick?  (meaning with each other.....I don't know.  I am trying to think of something clever)

Juli

 

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     Posted Oct-27 8:19 PM   
Tracey[Forum Asst Mgr]
 
From  Tracey[Forum Asst Mgr]  Posts 734  Last Nov-24
To  Juli      [Msg # 20571.11 Message 20571.11 replying to 20571.6 20571.6 ]    (Unread)
>>My first 'love' told me if I lost weight, that he would marry me in a second.  He still didn't have a problem 'getting' with me.  And like you, some of his friends wanted to as well. ( No comment on the biting-I was young, and trying to get even with him).  <<

It's not like you were married to him...and I don't judge what anyone does.  You never say never in life...because it can come back to haunt you!  My first love didn't tell me he'd marry me, he kept harping at me to quit smoking and lose weight.  He found the woman of his dreams, and she truly was a wonderful person.  Sadly, she passed about 4 years ago.  It was very sad.

>>There was a woman that I worked with like this.  A new story everyday.  Sometimes, she couldn't keep all of the lies straight.  <<

I work with one who worries more about who is off not driving doing BBQ's, United Way, etc.  She keeps track of who does what!  I have better things to do with my time than worry about that crap. 

>>Many people like this, just want the attention.  I think that all of the people that fall into these categories crave attention. <<

Yes, this one craved attention from men all the time.  She could never be without a man in her life, and she had some winners.  The man she is with now is a good man.  I don't know how he puts up with her crap!

TRACEY

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